Why do most of us judge a book by its cover? Did society really affected us so much so that we turned out this way? There are too many stereotyping, and I must admit that I do that too, but I'm trying not to..
A man with a loud voice, a body full of tattoos and piercings, may be the most helpful, kindest, nicest guy you'll ever come across.. On the other hand, a man with thick glasses, carrying a big backpack, nerdy pants, may be the most cunning, slyest, and evil-hearted guy that you'll ever meet.
Often, I'll also form my own opinions on a person based on my personal judgement. However, it isn't true that they are really what I thought they'd be all the time, sometimes, I'm surprised by their character, which I'd have thought to be really shitty.. or vice versa.
Likewise for me, many people thought that I'm tall just because I look tall in my pictures, but the truth is, I'm actually really short. Or people may have the impression that I'm demure, very soft spoken, or just simply carry myself with grace to a certain extent (according to some of my friends). However, I'm nothing like that! I prefer to be myself, and behave in a manner with is the total opposite of what you've thought I'd be. I'm usually all smiles, I talk rather loudly (not on purpose though) whenever I get excited, I can almost never shut up, I'm not a really girly-girl kind'a person, I prefer shorts > skirts/dresses so I can sit comfortably instead of being all prim and proper all the time.
First impression matters a lot to me, because I believe that it counts and gives the most impact on how the other party is gonna regard you, based on your behavior, looks, dressing, etc.. But after the first meeting, I'll just be myself, which will give a number of people quite a shock, because I'm not the same person I was on the first meeting. I've always believed that if someone likes me or my company, they must first like me for being who I really am, instead of putting up a pretentious front all the time in front of people. It gets really tiring if we all tried to be fake or act differently around different groups of people. Therefore, I wouldn't waste time on people that I know I can't click with, or I know clearly that I'm not the type of person they'd wanna hang out with and neither do I.
Being yourself is still the best. Always be yourself.
Signing off,
Vinez, xx
